*** This post may be triggering if you are suffering from postpartum depression (PPD) and are sensitive to negative news events ***
I felt like blogging tonight. Partly to keep my mind preoccupied so I won’t be nerve wracked all night, worrying about a presentation I have to give at work tomorrow. Some of you know that I absolutely HATE public speaking of any sort. HATE.
As my regular readers may have noticed, I don’t rant much any longer….I’ve mentioned before that my years of book writing and blogging have been EXTREMELY cathartic. I mentioned in my last post that I will continue to share what I feel to be newsworthy developments in research and media that demonstrate a continued forward momentum in the mission to de-stigmatize postpartum mood disorders and provide mothers with the care that is so desperately needed and is yet so lacking, still. I will also continue to share interesting tidbits I run across from my daily reading material that comes up in my Facebook news feed or elsewhere.
Tonight’s post shows how –despite valiant efforts in advocacy, public awareness and mother support on the part of many, some of whom I personally know–for every one step forward that’s made, there are forces out there that are ever so ready to drag us two huge steps back. I would like to highlight two examples of barriers to progress that were mentioned in news articles in the past couple of weeks.
This week’s announcement of the closing of the Shuswap Family Resource Centre’s Mother’s Journey Prenatal and Postnatal Support Group in British Columbia, Canada, is an example of how, despite the known benefits of having a postpartum support group, establishing and maintaining such groups within communities that don’t observe social support customs and rituals when it comes to expectant and postpartum mothers has been an ongoing challenge, mostly due to lack of funding. The postpartum support group offered mothers education (including self awareness and coping mechanisms) and support on 25-week open-ended cycles, meaning that mothers were able to freely join or leave at any point. Despite the realization of the importance of such a postpartum support group by healthcare practitioners and the community, and the simple fact that there were so many PPD cases and not enough trained individuals to provide the needed care, this center is closing its doors for good. Even while it was open, because there was no other support group like this anywhere in the area, PPD moms generally had to wait several weeks just to see someone. If a couple of days felt like an eternity for me when I was in the depths of my PPD, having a mother wait several weeks is simply unacceptable. Postpartum support groups should be opening, not closing, their doors to mothers!
We need more postpartum centers that focus on the needs of mothers and ensuring there is adequate support in the first one to three months after childbirth. Early intervention and women-centered health initiatives and programs and support services need to be the standard of care rather than the exception!
The title of the article is “10 reasons why breastfeeding is out of fashion,” written by Beverly Turner in the The Telegraph. I don’t get why women in media–or actually in this case a journalist who reminds me a lot of the other political developments that pop up in my Facebook news feed everyday that make me wonder how we could be in the 21st century and still be faced with so many anti-women initiatives (but I won’t go into there because I KNOW how right wing versus left wing thinking can terminate friendships at the snap of a finger, and this blog is not a political, feminist, or pro-choice versus pro-life blog) –want to be a barrier to progress for women? What she wrote made me sit there and re-read certain parts of her article, all the while scratching my head and going “Huh? I don’t get it. This makes no sense whatsoever. And she’s supposed to be a journalist? This article is so poorly written! How could she criticize other women when she doesn’t have a clue about their experiences?”
Now, as for her so-called ten points:
1. “Lack of post-natal care to help women establish feeding pattern.”
Sure, we need an overall increase in the availability of postnatal and breastfeeding support for new moms in the first 3 months.
2. “Lack of high-profile role models breastfeeding. This is why I implore the Duchess of Cambridge to get out her royal orbs when she has her first next month.”
I actually think there are a good number of celebrities that have announced that they are breastfeeding, or breastfed, their babies. Granted, there could be more, but we have more now talking about breastfeeding than ever before. Honestly, though, did she have to refer to the Duchess’ boobs as “royal orbs”….?! Does she sound like a man, or is it just me? From this point on, the article goes downhill very quickly…..never mind very quickly, try at warp speed.
3. “Noisy loons creating ‘Brestapo’ caricatures to appease their own consciences. These women are oddly vocal contingents, who bring their own neuroses to public forums shouting that women ‘shouldn’t be pressured…rather than helped (doh!). They are the same crowd who shout ‘women who have caesareans haven’t failed’! rather than, ‘what the hell is wrong with a system that is failing so many women’? It’s oddly misogynistic.”
WTF? Hypocritical much? I don’t need to go into this in detail because the fabulous, er, Fearless Formula Feeder has already blogged about this in a brilliant letter addressed to this, er, so-called journalist.
Reasons 4-6 and 8-10 may make sense being included on this list but the points she makes for each are weakly written. Not even worth mentioning, really.
4. “Reluctance to give time to our babies.”
WTF WTF WTF? This screams mommy war completely. How does she know what each mother’s experience is like? Get this woman a huge dose of empathy, STAT! I wish people like her who’ve never known firsthand what it’s like to experience PPD or other postpartum mood disorder and/or serious breastfeeding challenges would just keep their flapping and condescending lips shut.
There is a correlation between success in breastfeeding and PPD occurrence, which is why I think it’s important that as many of us that have been there–suffering from PPD and/or experiencing breastfeeding difficulties, and having very little support for either–speak up and have our voices heard. Because without our voices, we will forever be taking steps backward. We want progress! Mothers should support each other, not bash each other!
LET’S KEEP OUR FOCUS ON THE FOLLOWING:
- End the mommy wars!
- More breastfeeding support can increase breastfeeding success.
- We need more postpartum support groups, not close their doors!
- If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!
- Continue steps forward, no backward steps allowed!