I’m on a real roll right now with 3 blog posts in < 1 week! Well, what has spurred me to post today is an article titled “Experts fear copycat suicides after bullying cases” by Geoff Mulvihilli (AP) that I came across today concerning the recent teen suicides….6 since Tyler Clementi’s suicide on September 22, 2010. I am digressing from postpartum depression in that I am blogging about teen suicides, though suicides do occur in cases of postpartum mood disorders (PMDs) as well. I did blog about teen suicide once before, and in that post, I wrote about what makes girls more prone to depression once they hit puberty.
The circumstances that led to Tyler’s suicide were disturbing, despicable and disgraceful. The lives of those involved will never be the same, ever. The good that will come out of Tyler’s story is the realization that something must be done to put an end to bullying that has always occurred among our youth but its effect has become all the more deadly thanks to the Internet and other social media tools, whether it be live video streams (as in Tyler’s case), chat rooms, texting, or Twitter. President Obama and celebrities such as Ellen DeGeneres have made public appeals. The Trevor Project’s “It Gets Better” campaign has been very active in the past couple of months in reaching out to teens and providing them with resources and hope. States that hadn’t previously had anti-bullying laws have since either put them into place or are in the process of putting them in place. There are now only 5 states with no anti-bullying laws. Click here for state-specific legislative details.
Click here for a Photo Essay of the victims of bullying just from this past year. If these pictures don’t make you want to try to help stop bullying, I don’t know what will. Having been a victim of bullying, you bet I will do whatever I can to help spread awareness and join any campaigns against bullying. From the time my daughter reaches first grade until she graduates from high school, I will be involved in anti-bullying matters at her school. And if there isn’t any anti-bullying policy in place in her school when she’s there–or at the very least counselors adequately trained to recognize signs of depression and know what to do when there is bullying going on–I sure as heck will do what I can to make sure one is put in place.
Per the article, Laura McGinnis, spokeswoman for The Trevor Project, said that her group’s crisis hotline has seen a 75% increase in calls and an increase in requests from schools and community leaders for “survival kits” since Tyler’s death. I’d like to highlight what Ms. McGinnis said with respect to–and this applies to all individuals who are troubled and in need of someone to talk to–crisis intervention:
“It’s important for people who are feeling suicidal to know where to turn to for help, whether it’s a hot line, a friend or a hospital. There are people out there who can help you, who are willing to listen.”
Says Ann Haas, director of prevention programs at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention:
“If youth are struggling with depression, the impact of bullying can be quite different than if they’re otherwise emotionally healthy.”
And this, folks, is the one very big distinguishing factor between how different teens handle situations like bullying, teenage angst and/or a dysfunctional family. When I saw a Facebook comment a few weeks ago from one of my “friends” who happens to be in high school how he could never, ever feel down enough to hurt or kill himself despite all that he had to put up with in high school, so what’s up with the new trend of teens killing themselves instead of dealing with their problems, I had to speak up. I basically said that one who has never suffered from depression will never understand what it’s like to be depressed–to feel so alone, worthless, and desperate enough to want to end it all. Just like this article says, it’s not just one factor (i.e., bullying) that may lead an individual to thoughts of suicide. There is a whole lot more to it. Personality (i.e., self esteem), the way a person was brought up to deal with issues, and support system among family/friends (or lack thereof) all have a lot to do with it. People need to open their eyes to see when someone in their lives isn’t himself or herself, could use someone to talk to and provide a shoulder to lean on, and needs a hotline/warmline and/or professional help.
I am going to now draw a parallel with PPD here. Moms who have never had a PMD will never understand what it’s like to have a PMD. That’s a fair statement to make, but it shouldn’t keep people from becoming educated. From opening their eyes. From forgetting the dumb stigma that’s associated with depression, especially depression occurring after childbirth. From forgetting the even dumber motherhood myths. From recognizing when something is not right with a new mom and helping her to seek professional help. From recognizing when a call to 1-800-273-TALK (8255) is needed.
What we all need to do is to become educated on symptoms of depression in the people in our lives and know what to do to help. Everyone deserves help and support. With the right help and support, any situation that’s troubling an individual can and WILL pass. As the Trevor Project motto goes “It Gets Better”…..it really does.
Here are some important Suicide Prevention Resources: