As I have mentioned quite often on my blog, surviving my postpartum depression (PPD) experience has had a transformational effect on me.
My experience has:
1. Educated me on the stigma and ignorance that exist with respect to mental health issues (and maternal mental health issues, which are of particular importance to me) in this country….and throughout the world, for that matter.
2. Educated me on our society’s trend in the wrong direction with respect to ensuring that new mothers get the care and nurturing they need in the first weeks after childbirth.
3. Opened my eyes to the toxic societal trends in the form of motherhood myths that cause unnecessary anxiety and unnecessary feelings of guilt and shame.
4. Instilled a desire to help other new moms suffering from PPD (and any moms just seeking non-judgmental emotional support).
Speaking of toxic societal trends, there are quite a number of them, the latest of which has the Breast is ALWAYS the Best fanatics behind it….brings to mind the far-right views on abortion (no exceptions, even for rape or incest), but I won’t go into that here. This fanatical thinking that breast is ALWAYS the best–despite congenital/neonatal issues, childbirth complications (like mine), needing to take PPD meds to recover in order to BE a mother to your baby (like me), and the list goes on–needs to cease and desist!
When it comes to the mental well-being of a new mom, I am ever so mindful of the stigmas, ignorance, attitudes, beliefs, myths, etc. that have a toxic impact on a new mom. The dragon in me comes out (picture me with fire coming out of my mouth) and I get VERY IRRITATED by the things I come across– whether it be from discussions I overhear (or have with people), articles/posts/comments I read on the Internet, or hear in the news–that have to do with any toxic ways of thinking. Hence, much of what I post are my reactions to the good and the bad–there is unfortunately more of the latter out there. 😦
In the past few months, I joined these two wonderful Facebook groups for moms: The Fearless Formula Feeder and Bottle Babies (Brisbane, Australia). I wish I had such resources when I was having trouble breastfeeding over 7 years ago! The ladies who make up these two groups are truly amazing, and I respect them so much for their dedication in helping new moms and providing them with non-judgmental emotional support. Together, they recently released this video titled “I’m a Bottle Baby and I Am…..” that I would like to share with you:
“[How] you fill your [baby’s] tummy is not as important as how you fill their heart, mind and spirit.”
– Bottle Babies
I’m such a new member of these two groups that I missed the opportunity to contribute to this video. Well, anyway, here’s a picture of both me and my daughter as examples of two healthy, bottle-fed individuals with good heads on our shoulders. 🙂