There is nothing subtle about the common bond of parenthood, as shown at the end of this video sponsored by Similac, a formula company. I’m practically certain that an anti-formula group of breastfeeding (BF) zealots would never have sponsored such a video. The last thing the BF zealots want to show is that there is even a hint of commonality between moms who BF and moms who formula feed.
What is the common bond? Well, as you’ll see by watching this video, it’s that parents are–regardless of our parenting style or choices–parents. Period. The video even has a group of men (whether they are single parents or stay-at-home-dads is not clear), which is Similac’s intent to bring fathers into the picture, because after all, fathers are parents too. Parents have a desire and obligation to do the best they can to care for their children with the means best suited for them. Our children are our responsibility. We brought them into the world.
At the end of the video, when a baby and parent need help, everyone–regardless of their parenting style or choices–drops their differences and runs to the aid of that baby and parent. Now, that’s what it SHOULD be all about. Forget about stupid and meaningless mommy wars. Putting aside our differences and recognizing and respecting each others’ differences– instead of putting up walls to separate ourselves from those that are different from us– is what it should all be about. Non first-time parents know what it’s like to be a parent for the first time and know how challenging taking care of a newborn baby and being a first-time parent really is. Wouldn’t it be nice if experienced parents shared their experience with other new parents instead of thinking “Well, I learned the hard way, so can he/she.” Wouldn’t it also be nice if there were parent support groups in EVERY community, not just here or there and not known to/hard to find by the vast majority of those seeking support? Parenting is about community, not about individual parents in isolation, left to their own devices because of how they choose to parent.
It takes a community to parent, period. You can’t go it alone. And you should not have to.
For added perspective from a writer and advocate for mothers whom I admire very much, please visit Suzie Barston’s Fearless Formula Feeder’s blog post about this video. It’s titled “You’re Proving the Point.”
And another piece written by Amy Newman titled “Let’s Lower Stakes in Breastfeeding Debate.”