The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of COVID

I didn’t even realize I failed to post for June, so will post at least twice this month!  For all who read this post, I sincerely hope you are well.  If you need to reach out to me for help regarding insomnia after having a baby and postpartum depression or other related mood disorder, please do not hesitate to leave me a comment.  It may have been 16 years since I survived my experience, but I am always looking to help new moms!

Now, with today’s post.  Let me start with the ugly and work my way to the good.  As with everything, I try to see everything as REALISTICALLY as possible.  And try to appreciate silver linings.

The Ugly:

-I learned that people who felt inconvenienced with mask wearing, lost their jobs and/or lost loved ones harbor so much anger that they look to take their anger out on someone, and that someone is Chinese-looking people that live everywhere outside of China – that includes Chinese Americans who’ve never been to China (like me), Taiwanese, Koreans, Japanese, Malaysians, Filipinos, Singaporians, Vietnamese, Thai, Cambodians, Indonesians….you get the picture, right?
-I learned that there is still much to be done with respect to Anti-Asian sentiment and racism in this country; and much for people to learn with respect to Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders (AAPI)
-I learned that the so-called leader of this country deliberately caused the ramp-up of Anti-Asian sentiment and racism in this country by constantly referencing COVID as the “Kung Flu” and “Chinese Virus”….and it didn’t stop there…..his divisive rhetoric made people all the more hateful of people who aren’t white and the “perpetual foreigner” that legally-immigrated Chinese Americans (like all other legally-immigrated people of European descent, etc.) have been viewed as since they first came to this country in the 1700s

The Bad:

-I learned that COVID was not the only reason to be fearful of returning to NYC if you look Chinese, since physical and verbal attacks on Asians are occurring at an alarming rate
-I learned that COVID is ruthless with certain people regardless of underlying conditions or perfect health
-I learned that front line health workers have sacrificed so much, including their own lives
-I learned that many people were furloughed until their employers asked them to return or lost their jobs because so many small businesses around the country were impacted by the shut-down
-I learned that COVID has kept families from gathering in large numbers (well, at least the ones who believe COVID is a real issue) to celebrate and to grieve (when death takes a toll on a loved one)
-I learned that COVID can make people prone to depression even more so because people prone to depression should not be staying inside and being unable to have in-person social interactions for prolonged periods of time
-I learned that rates of postpartum mood disorders (e.g., postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, postpartum OCD, postpartum psychosis) went up during lockdown:

The Good (yes, there are a few silver linings in the mix!):

-I learned that working remotely can have benefits, like getting more work done and getting more sleep, and being able to pick your kids up from school
-I learned that one can save a lot of money by not having to commute; I save upward of $500 a month from not having to commute to NYC and spend money on breakfasts & lunches
-I learned that one can get hours back by not spending time commuting – that for me means 3 hrs commuting on average each day, something I claimed I didn’t mind doing for almost 31 years leading up to March 2020
-I learned that another silver lining to staying at home is focusing on de-cluttering my life’s belongings, a thing I’ve been putting off for years
-I learned the importance of staying close to nature by tending to our garden, going on daily walks, and visiting the abundance of gardens in NJ, NY and PA
-I learned that technologies such as Zoom can work wonders to keep people connected when in-person gatherings are not possible
-I learned that true friendships pick up where they left off before the lockdown