Happy Daylight Savings Day! Happy International Women’s Day! And happy longer & warmer days! Looks like the groundhog was right…at least here in the NY metro area, spring is starting early this year! I’m not going to speak of snow, specifically, for fear of jinxing myself.
I haven’t blogged in ages! I’ve said that I have slowed down on blogging but will probably never fully stop, as I always have thoughts about postpartum depression (PPD). I’ve blogged previously about television shows, movies and Broadway shows that delve into the topic of mental health and PPD, in particular. This time, it is the Broadway musical “Diana, A True Musical Story” that is motivating me to write today. I saw the musical 2 nights ago in its first week of previews, and loved it. Though, I do think the end needs some fine-tuning; I guess being in previews for the next few weeks leaves them some room to make adjustments, hopefully? The music was written by Bon Jovi’s David Bryan who’d won a Tony award for “Memphis” and who I’m fairly sure will get a Tony nomination for Diana. Another certain Tony nom is the one for best leading actress in a musical for Jeanna de Waal who is amazing as Princess Di….she captures all of Princess Di’s mannerisms, the way she carried herself, walked, etc. There will no doubt be other Tony noms, including one for Judy Kaye for her portrayal of Queen Elizabeth, Best Costume Design of a Musical, Best Book of a Musical, Best Direction of a Musical, and of course Best Musical.
I am blogging about this show and about Diana because she posed as a beacon of light for those suffering from mental health issues. During one of the scenes in which Diana had just given birth to Prince William, postpartum depression was mentioned. Hey, a shout out about the condition that affects 1 out of 7 new moms! I couldn’t contain myself and said out loud “Wow, they actually mentioned postpartum depression.” Good for you, Christopher Ashley and Joe DiPietro, for including this important experience of Princess Diana in this musical production! I am grateful that this show was created to share with young and old: those who were around and when she was alive and loved her (like me) and those who weren’t born until after her death. She wasn’t referred to the People’s Princess for nothing. In her short life, she touched so many lives, most of whom had never even met her.
She was a woman ahead of her time, inspiring not only fashion trends, but through her courage of not holding back, not letting her situation crush her, and moving on with her life the way she wanted to live it….
Free of the yoke of being told what she could/couldn’t do because it was considered unbecoming of a princess and a woman. While reciting her wedding vow to Prince Charles chose to omit the word “obey”….she was the first royal bride to do this, with Kate Middleton and Megan Markle following in her footsteps. Additionally, she wore her infamous off-the-shoulder and body hugging black “Revenge Dress” (I won’t spoil what the show referred to this dress as, it will crack you up, I assure you) to a Vanity Fair dinner on June 29, 1994 because she knew Prince Charles was going to officially confess his affair with Camilla Parker Bowles there.
Free of the yoke of being tied to a man who didn’t love her. She confronted Camilla Parker Bowles, the woman Prince Charles was having an affair with, at Camilla’s sister’s 40th birthday party. During the BBC interview, she let the public know “There were three in the marriage, so it was a bit crowded.” And soon after the interview in 1996, she again broke from religious/royal convention by getting divorced.
Free of the yoke of being Princess of Wales, speaking her mind, leading from her heart, and making the world fall in love with her.
- She broke from the mold of royalty by being true to herself and honest and open about her feelings with the public. Her interviews, biographies, recordings and book “Diana-Her True Story by Andrew Morton” (published in 1992) reveal her sense of humor, candor, and heart of gold. Diana was not afraid to tell the world that her life with Prince Charles was far from the fairytale-like marriage people believe it to be. People in England and all over the world fell in love with her.
- She was determined to fight the stigma of HIV and AIDS even though the Queen often voiced her displeasure about such efforts. There are numerous pictures of her shaking hands and conversing with HIV/AIDS patients without any protective gear on. She became involved with numerous charities in Africa that made a huge impact internationally with respect to the treatment of AIDS.
- She was determined to fight the stigma of mental health issues like self harm, bulimia, and PPD. Back in 1982 when Diana gave birth to Prince William, PPD was something that was never discussed with anyone. Her pregnancy was a difficult one. She didn’t feel well throughout it, and things got worse after she had the baby. All the pressures of being a wife, a mother and the people’s princess were too overwhelming for her. She worried constantly and struggled in silence. She would cry and feel panicked whenever Prince Charles didn’t come home when he said he was coming home. She kept her panic to herself. The public noticed her getting thinner during her public appearances, which she explained was due to the fatigue from first-time motherhood. In her book “Diana-Her True Story” and her famous 1995 BBC interview with Martin Bashir, she finally opened up about her struggles with self harm, eating disorders, and postpartum depression (the root of all had to do with how unhappy she was with her marriage and how alone she felt). Diana revealed that she had received very little support from the royal family when she was sick with PPD because they didn’t know what to do, because people back then (and even in many places and cases today) didn’t really know what PPD was. The royal family went around saying that “Diana is unstable, Diana is mentally unbalanced” (these words were used in the musical). Having such a negative label associated with her was unfortunate. She wasn’t just a first-time mother trying to be the best mother for her child; she was also a young woman trying to adapt to her life as a princess. Between these pressures and the lack of emotional support / personal time and space, her toxic marriage, history of her own mother walking out of her life when she was a small child, shame from not being able to cope with everything, and lack of self esteem, it’s no wonder she suffered from PPD! So many risk factors!
When no one listens to you, or you feel no one’s listening to you, all sorts of things start to happen. For instance you have so much pain inside yourself that you try and hurt yourself on the outside because you want help, but it’s the wrong help you’re asking for. People see it as crying wolf or attention-seeking, and they think because you’re in the media all the time that you’ve got ’enough attention.’ But I was actually crying out because I wanted to get better in order to go forward and continue my duty and my role as wife, mother, Princess of Wales. – from her BBC interview
She never got professional help because she didn’t really ask for it due to the shame she felt. And yet she soldiered on….the People’s Princess to the very end of her life that was tragically cut short right after her 36th birthday on August 31, 1997. I will never forget where I was (I was walking in an open market in Sydney, Australia) when I heard the tragic news.
Please go check it out if you were one of the many who fell in love with Princess Di that you were heartbroken for weeks after she died. Please go check it out if your life hasn’t previously been touched by Princess Di and want to be inspired by the story of a woman way ahead of her time. From the beginning of her marriage to Prince Charles to the end of it, she managed to become a powerful, independent woman despite all the royal restrictions that were in place. In the end, she packed her bags and left, refusing to be stuck in a loveless marriage.