I was motivated to write this blog post tonight due to a Telegraph article that appeared in my Facebook feed today written by Nisha Lilia Diu and titled: “Suicide is now the biggest killer of teenage girls worldwide. Here’s why.”
That headline shocked me. And it is shocking a lot of people, even those firmly entrenched in the fields of global women’s rights. This headline should shock everyone. It should shock people into trying to do something to turn those statistics around.
Yes, suicide is now the #1 killer of girls/young women between the ages of 15 and 19. Suicide has overtaken maternal mortality as the #1 killer of young women in the world….a statistic buried–yes, buried–in the latest World Health Organisation report. This information does not deserve to be buried. It needs to be written about, talked about and acted upon! I am glad Nisha wrote this Telegraph article! In the article, you’ll see the alarming numbers of suicides in girls ages 15-19 in the different regions of the world.
Teen girls ages 15-19 face, regardless of location:
- hormone changes
- emotional changes (e.g., increase in vulnerability and decline in self confidence)
- behavior changes (e.g., attracting mate, sex drive, competition)
- identity issues (e.g., acceptance among peers, desire to fit in, peer pressure)
Add to that the following disadvantages society places on women, including:
- societal expectations
Add to that the use of social media throughout much of the world. I’ve blogged in the past about it, but I will sum up the basics of the detrimental impact social media can have on emotionally vulnerable teen girls. The malicious words of a complete stranger, aka troll, that confirm an emotionally vulnerable teenager’s feelings (i.e., self hate, thoughts of suicide) by saying things like “Yeah, you’re ugly alright. Why don’t you just go kill yourself.” These are the trolls I wish more than anything in the world–with the exception of the complete eradication of mental health stigma, terrorism, misogny and people killing each other–can be located and zapped from existence. Like in a video game. These haters are a danger to others and need to be stopped.
I need to mention the tragic story of 12 year old Izzy, which I learned about from this blog post last week. While we do not know what exactly led to her being publicly shamed online by her father after he hacked her hair, and it is unlikely that the video alone led to her jumping out of a car and off a bridge to her death, what I do know is that ANY teen acting out (e.g., doing drugs, rebellious behavior, locking themselves in their rooms) needs help, NOT punishment or public shaming. FULL STOP.
As in so many cases you will read about in the news of teens taking their own lives, there may have been no signs that they were distressed to the point that they felt they had to end their lives to escape the pain with which they are struggling. Today, I came across this touching obituary written by the parents of Clay Shephard in North Carolina, whose son was smiling despite what was driving his drug addictions. There was no indication whatsoever that he was going to take his own life. Included in the obituary were these words that sound very much like my post about a fellow alum’s son’s sudden tragic passing a few months ago:
To all parents, pay attention to your children and the world that revolves around them – even when the surface is calm, the water may be turbulent just beneath.
You may wonder how all this has anything to do with postpartum depression (PPD). It’s important to remember that many cases of depression surface during the teenage years and follow you throughout life. One of the primary risk factors of PPD is a history of depression. I delve into relevant statistics and risk factors in my book. And you may be interested in checking out my prior posts relating to teenage years.
- Disturbing Teenage Trend: Hey Stranger Do You Think I’m Ugly
- Nature Versus Nurture in Relation to PPD
- PMS versus PMDD
- Bullying and Suicide…Teen Angst and Depression
- The Mental Cost Behind a Nomadic Childhood Experience
- Depression and Teen Suicides…It Will Get Better
- You are Perfect to Me, Says the Parent to the Child
It’s with knowledge that there is any hope of REDUCING STIGMA AND REDUCING DEPRESSION!