Just a quick post tonight with a movie review of “Tully” written by a friend of mine, Mrs. W.
Initially, Mrs. W was annoyed like I was about the movie’s apparent failures based on a couple of negative movie reviews she and I both read this past weekend. Like me, she did not want to see the movie. That is, until I sent her the review from a postpartum psychosis survivor, Melissa Bangs, who happens to be the star of her own one-woman show “Playing Monopoly with God” that’s been on tour for the past couple of years and is headed to New York City next week! Reading this positive review of someone who is a PPP survivor peaked Mrs. W’s interest, and so she went to see “Tully” yesterday. Please take a moment to read Melissa’s personal thoughts from the perspective of an actual PPP survivor!
Without further ado, here’s Mrs. W’s movie review:
“Ok. So I saw it tonight………….
- There are a couple triggering scenes. One of them was in the first half of the movie, which almost caused me to leave because my whole body got amped up like I was going to have an anxiety attack. But I calmed myself down and was able to sit through the last half of the movie, which was less emotionally jarring.
- I don’t want to spoil the movie, but I will say that the main character definitely has postpartum psychosis but no one ever says it outright. There are a few things said (like when her husband told the doc she was depressed with their second child) that might mislead people to think she has postpartum depression (PPD), but I think the movie left out the actual diagnosis on purpose because it wants the audience to figure it out on their own. However, I do think the movie shines a light on postpartum mental health and how a struggling mother could slip through the cracks …to the point that even a husband who doesn’t pay close attention would fail to notice his wife’s condition.
- It is a shame that the doctor in the movie doesn’t say it outright that she has PPP. It was definitely a missed opportunity to shed light on the subject no one talks about.
- Also, Charlize Theron played the heck out of that role.”
Hmmmm, it’s interesting that Mrs. W thinks the film makers deliberately left out the diagnosis of PPP to cause the audience to want to figure it out on their own. I, on the other hand, don’t have such an optimistic perspective and in this case would not give the film makers such credit for the reasons stated in my blog post about Tully. What the movie and the subsequent posts on social media has done, at least in the maternal mental health circle, is promote discussion about maternal mental health. But that’s within the already existing circles of advocates, mental healthcare practitioners, and survivors. I haven’t really heard much about discussions going on among the general public, which is why first and foremost we must capture the proper message about maternal mental health conditions (and bust stigmas associated with them) to educate people, share widely and DISCUSS! THIS is why I am still annoyed about the lost opportunity to educate the public. The film makers could have easily inserted a diagnosis into the screenplay. But they didn’t.
Anyway, the whole point of this post is to weigh different perspectives and not let a couple of negative movie reviews completely shut off all interest in seeing a movie. Just as Mrs. W had done, she started out with an opinion that was formed based on a couple of negative reviews of people (not really clear if they themselves were PPD or PPP survivors) who did see the movie. Because of these negative reviews, she was annoyed and had zero interest in seeing the movie. After I showed her Melissa’s review, she went to see it and was able to form her own opinion after seeing it. Then she shared with me her thoughts about the movie.
Mrs. W did confirm that the movie:
- Puts a light on maternal mental health in terms of mothers’ struggles being real and women like Tully falling through the cracks due to lack of awareness and lack of support from significant others and loved ones. Motherhood is not easy. A mother who is struggling will fall through the cracks if she doesn’t get the help she needs. New mothers need practical/emotional help during the first couple of months. Forget about the whole supermom thing.
- Falls short in raising awareness that postpartum mood disorders are experienced by 1 out of 7 mothers and definitely not anything to be ashamed of. They are very real, serious, painful to experience, and life-changing.
And yes, Charlize Theron plays the heck out of ANY role she plays. But for me, even if Charlize earns an Oscar nom, I still can’t set aside my annoyance (that I blogged about previously) to see it. As a person of principle, I would not want to pay even $1 to watch a movie that fails an opportunity to educate the population properly by sending unclear signals on the condition Tully really suffered from. To each his/her own, as they say…..